Being an entrepreneur can be tough, lonely and tiring. It is not for the faint-hearted. How ironic then, that the majority of us suffer with low self-esteem yet we choose a career full of trials, vulnerability and risk! Negative thoughts can overwhelm us, so here I’m sharing my secret to overcoming them.
We see plenty of stories about six-figure businesses and people succeeding, which is fantastic. However, if we’re not doing so great, falling into the ‘compare and despair’ trap is so easy.
“What am I doing wrong? Why can’t I be like them? I don’t know what to do. I can’t do this. I’m a failure.”
See how easy it is to go from comparison to writing ourselves off as completely hopeless?
In my experience, not only is it easy but it is oh-so lonely. Feeling afraid to ask for help because you don’t want to seem unprofessional. Thinking you’ve got to have it all together.
Let me tell you, the opposite is true. It’s okay not to know everything. It’s okay to feel stuck. It’s okay to be where you are.
We spend so much time (or at least I did) fighting those feelings, fighting to succeed and fighting our negative voices that we tire ourselves out.
The key? Surrender.
I know, it sounds crazy. But fighting something THAT strong will only make it come back harder. We are trying to control something more powerful than us.
So, acknowledge the thoughts and feelings are there. Acknowledge where you are right now in your business and your life.
And then accept them. This is the hardest part. The feelings and thoughts are there. They won’t kill you. Sit with them. Accepting them doesn’t mean wallowing or becoming despondent. It simply allows you to be who and where you are.
You are exactly where you are supposed to be right now.
You don’t have to know the reason why.
And by accepting those thoughts and feelings, you can now take action to move ahead in peace.
Share where you are, how you’re feeling, what you’re struggling with (ideally in a supportive business Facebook group- see the workbook for links!). I can guarantee people will have been there before.
When you are in a negative zone, walk away for a while. Do something to recharge your batteries and clear your head. You will come back refreshed, ready to put in the action… and let go of the outcome!
In this awesome mini workbook I share the steps I take to deal with a negative thought, a list of my favourite Facebook groups for entrepreneurs and a list of affirmations.
What are your biggest blocks in business? What do you find easy, and what do you struggle with?